Monday, September 6, 2010

Baby In Danger

The following dream skips a part, something I've discovered is common in my own dreams, so I am relating it as it was written. My own comments about the dream are written at the end. The dream is written between the ***.


I don't know where I was, but I think I was at the home of somebody I either knew or was visiting. A man walked into the kitchen. I could see him clearly from my position in what was probably the living room, but I didn't recognize him. He was carrying a baby.

He placed the baby on one of the shelves in the kitchen. I sat on the couch and stared in disbelief at what I was seeing. The ceilings were high, too high for me to reach. I was in a state of shock, unable to move my eyes from the baby, and I was so afraid that if I moved even one inch, the baby would fall off the shelf.

Part of the dream is missing here, but I remember him then taking the baby and placing it on a higher shelf and, before I could get up and run into the kitchen, almost in slow motion, the baby fell backward onto the floor.

Suddenly my ex-husband is around and I'm screaming and crying at the other guy for being so irresponsible and stupid, asking how he even came up with the asinine idea of putting a baby on the shelf in the first place.

I couldn't tell if the baby was alive or dead, because I could no longer see the baby, but now I'm in a room filled with people and I'm still very emotional about the baby falling backward off the shelf. I relate the incident to the group of people standing around me. Everybody is so sad. It's like we're all in mourning (for the baby? – I don't know).

In the midst of telling my emotional story, my daughter, who is completely ignoring the gravity of the situation, flips her hair back and announces, "And I just got highlights put into my hair."

I am appalled by her insensitivity and when I get in the car with my mother, who is driving, I tell her how concerned I am that my daughter is an alcoholic just like my ex. Suddenly I realize that my daughter is in the back seat. I had forgotten she was there. I turn around to look at her and she is sobbing, because she knows she's an alcoholic too.

I reach back to her and place my hand on her leg to comfort her and to tell her how much I love her, because I can see she is in so much pain. I think the dream ended there.


Let's start with the car and work backward. The position in a car is important. The dreamer was not in the driver's seat; therefore she was awarding control of the situation to her own mother, with whom she felt comfortable releasing her emotions about her daughter's behavior.

At the gathering, the daughter seems oblivious to the emotions of the people in the room. Her "flippant" attitude, which the mother attributes to drinking, is probably due to her daughter's inability to realize the focus of the conversation is not about her.

OR maybe the focus of the conversation WAS about her: the baby in the dream may represent the dreamer's daughter, because even though the original man in the dream was the one who placed the baby on the shelf, the fact that the ex showed up indicates that maybe the ex was the one who endangered the dreamer's daughter by putting her in a position where she was going to get hurt. After all, if his drinking endangered her or if the dreamer is blaming him for his daughter's drinking, the man in the beginning of the dream may represent him.

The dream could also indicate that the dreamer felt the ex placed the baby in too lofty a position and the dreamer thought that the daughter felt an obligation to live up to expectations that were "too high."

Interesting to note – the dreamer starts out relating the dream in past tense and then switches to present tense. I don't know why that's relevant; I just thought I would point it out.

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